It’s Amazing What You Can Get Just By Asking

Everyone has heard the advice, “It doesn’t hurt to ask.” But my experience has been far better than that. Time and time again, I’ve seen that it often pays to ask.

Just by asking, I’ve gotten fees waived, better tables at restaurants, lower prices on newspaper subscriptions, an iPhone 6 for $1 (back when iPhone 6s were new), and as I’ll describe below, a costly vehicle repair more than reimbursed by the manufacturer.

Life happens

For most of the time that we’ve owned our van, a 2004 Toyota Sienna, it’s been great—very reliable, with no costly maintenance or repair surprises. Until just recently.

That’s when the driver’s door started making the sound you might imagine a door would make if it were dying. Every time we opened it, there was a horrible screeching sound followed by a pop. To be honest, it was embarrassing.

A Toyota body shop estimator said it was unlikely the door could be repaired. It would probably have to be replaced — to the tune of $3,000! That’s about what the van is worth!

Sometimes ‘no’ means ‘maybe’

I tend to ask lots of questions, and in the midst of a conversation about how the door could suddenly stop working properly, the estimator gave me a critical piece of information. Their shop has seen other ‘04 Siennas with the same problem, and in some cases Toyota covered the cost of a new door or a repair.

I wonder if that would have come up if we hadn’t talked so long.

So I called Toyota’s U.S. headquarters, explained the problem, and said I was facing a possible $3,000 bill. Sure enough, the person I spoke with said the company has received other complaints about this issue and even extended the warranty by a couple of years to cover the cost of repairs. However, that warranty expired long ago. He said I was out of luck.

If you don’t ask, the answer is always no.

I could have let it go at that, but I didn’t.

I wasn’t rude. I wasn’t impatient. I just calmly said that since they acknowledged it was a manufacturing issue, wouldn’t it still make sense for Toyota to help fix the problem? I mean, shouldn’t a vehicle’s door continue to work properly even after all these years?

He said he’d see what he could do, which I took as a glimmer of hope.

In the meantime, I scheduled the next step, which was for the repair shop to take the door apart to see more clearly whether it could be repaired or would need to be replaced. My wife and I talked through the worst-case scenario. As painful as it would be, we agreed that we’d rather spend the money to fix the van than replace it.

A double dose of good news

A few hours after dropping off the van, the body shop called to say the door could be repaired for a little over $500. Still a lot of money, but way better than $3,000.

A couple of days later, I heard back from Toyota. My contact said the company had agreed to give me a credit worth $750 that could be used for future maintenance and repairs.

I told him the door ended up being able to be repaired for $500, so I’d be very happy with a $500 credit. He thanked me for that information, but said they’d keep it at $750. Wow.

Just say something

I never try to be manipulative about what I ask for, but I do make requests somewhat regularly. Sometimes you don’t even have to ask for anything, you just have to speak up if you’re dissatisfied with a product or service.

In fact, when I was getting our van fixed, I had to rent a car for a couple of days. The rental car smelled like smoke. I noticed it when I was driving away from the rental place, but it had already taken some time to get the car and I needed to get to work, so I decided to put up with it.

Still it bothered me.

When I returned the car, I politely said, “I just want you to know, I was a little disappointed with the car. It smelled like smoke, which gave me a headache, and I had to drive my daughter to her music lessons in that car,” all of which was true.

On the spot, the person checking the car in cut my rental fee in half.

Do you tend to speak up—to make requests? Why or why not? What good deals have you gotten just by asking?

Take it to heart:For it will be like a man going on a journey, who called his servants and entrusted to them his property.  To one he gave five talents, to another two, to another one, to each according to his ability. Then he went away.” – Matthew 25:14-15

Take action: If it’s uncomfortable for you to ask for things, start small. Ask for a sample at the ice cream parlor or deli counter. Ask a neighbor if you could borrow a ladder. As you get more comfortable with it, ask for more. When a service provider lets you know about a price hike, call customer service, tell them you’ve been a loyal customer and would like to stay with them, and then ask if there’s something they can do about the upcoming price hike. Always be prepared for a “no,” but I think you’ll be surprised at how often the answer is, “yes.”

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2 Responses to It’s Amazing What You Can Get Just By Asking

  1. Connie G July 28, 2020 at 4:45 PM #

    For a number of years my husband and I were with a Christian health care sharing organization. We were strongly encouraged to ask for a discount. A couple of times I needed several labs and asked if one of my doctors would run the bill through his office as opposed to paying the lab directly. That brought the bill for the labs down about 75 percent. All of the medical providers would give some discount when I asked for it under the circumstances. I have also asked for discounts at a thrift store. I admired a picture for some time but the price always stayed the same. One day I asked the manager if the price ever came down and she dropped the price to about 45 percent of what they had been asking. Another time I picked out an artificial flower arrangement at the thrift store and felt that it was overpriced. I asked the manager for a discount and she cut the price in half. I don’t always do this at the thrift store, but if I feel they can do better on the price, I will ask for it.

    • Matt Bell August 17, 2020 at 10:05 PM #

      Such great examples that it’s amazing what you can get if you’re willing to ask. Thanks for sharing your experiences, Connie!

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